I met a mysterious man last night. The attraction was inevitable. We talked a little, drank a few glasses of wine and…within a couple of hours, we were naked in bed together. And then he was gone.
It was the best one-night stand of my life. If you ask me what I remember…everything but his name!
If we look to the model that say you’re not a schoolboy if you not take a four or you aren’t a student if you have no backlog, we conclude that you can’t say that you have experience in sex until you try a one-night stand.
And why not? An experience of a night can have a liberating effect on women willing to put aside the idea of relationship and allowing a sex therapy session.
One-night stands are a firecracker of sexuality: short, explosive and leaving a lasting memory that often trumps the actual experience.
The allure of the one-night stand may be greater than that of any other sexual escapade, bun sometimes can go wrong. I will explain to you why we make ONS a lot more complicated they need to be.
So, before you go jumping into bed with a hot man, here are my top Tips for a Great One-Night Stand.
- The Right Reasons
DO: Do it when you have a good reason: you’re horny, keen and curious to explore your sexuality.
DON’T DO: Bad reason: you want a partner and are secretly hoping that the sex will lead to something more serious. Don’t see it as a way to get a boyfriend. You are seeking a bed buddy, not a boyfriend.
- The Feelings
DO: Protect your emotions – that’s the way to do. If you sit on the prowl for the perfect ONS, you have to feel physical attraction but zero emotional connection.
DON’T DO: Nothing ruins the fun of a no-strings-attached…nothing except feelings. Do not get emotionally involved no matter how good the sex was or how cute was the guy. Do not enter into discussions about family, love, relationship, ex-boyfriends. Do not make statements that you do not believe them. Do not go to light candles and prepare a romantic breakfast next morning.
- The Right Man
DO: Choose a man who is not part of your social circle, preferable. More than that, choose a man that you want just for sex. If you suspect that the person in question is in love with you or would like more than sex, give up on one-night stand. Also, if your feelings are similar then it’s better to go for a coffee than go straight to bed.
DON’T DO: Do not try a one-night stand with a coworker or college, a friend, a brother friend or, worse, a friend of your ex. In other words, do not choose a person known because you have to see again then so too often and the situation will be tense. It’s even possible that such an adventure to end their friendships.
- The Protection Plan
DO: Remember the importance of wrapping it up! Bring a condom with you before going out. Better to be safe than sorry.
DON’T DO: Get too caught up in the moment to use a condom. Halting foreplay for a couple of minutes to grab a rubber is a way better scenario than dealing with an STI or unplanned pregnancy later on.
- The Fantasies
DO: Given that you are not going to see him again you can put it into practice the wildest fantasies. This is the time to experiments and try new things. Try a position or a technique you’ve always wanted to. With anonymity can come mind-blowing freedom.
DON’T DO: Don’t submit his fantasies if you don’t want the same thing. If you don’t feel comfortable with his proposal, politely refuse and propose him to try anything else.
- Cuddle Afterwards
DO: You can cuddle a little, if you want this, but don’t confuse the feelings. After climax, it cliff-drops, leaving you craving more sex, which you can confuse with a craving for him.
DON’T DO: Don’t leave without a cuddle. If you’ll do that, you’ll feel less satisfied and more ‘gimme another fix’ needy.
DO: If he ask for your phone number the next morning, you have to expect an invitation to a similar experience: sex again. Keep that in mind when you decide the next step.
Look at the experience as an adventure, separate from everyday business, from which each got what he wanted.
DON’T DO: Do not expect him to call and to bring you flowers next day. So, if you want to conquest him, don’t use sex like an icebreaker. In translation, if you like someone then do not throw yourself into his arms in hopes that you will conquer him.
That being said, be careful. Don’t ruin your experience by making preventable mistakes.