Masturbation seems less taboo these days, but lots of us still see it as second-tier sex, or the sex you have when you can’t get the sex you want. The truth is, if you don’t know your body, how can you expect that anyone else will know your body? The name of the game is self discovery, and there’s no shame in it.
The first thing to remember is that we are sexual beings. Our bodies are innately wired to experience touch in an intimate way.
We have to allow what may come up so that we can release it – guilt, fear, all of it. The clitoris is your best bud and it’s the only organ in the human body designed exclusively for pleasure. With somewhere between 6,000 and 8,000 nerve endings, you can get a lot of feeling out of your clit.
The benefits of a good climax
- relieves stress
- gets out our pent-up frustrations
- cures headaches
- menstrual cramps
- makes people happy
Testing out new masturbation techniques by yourself will score you two very important sexual health benefits that go beyond simply having a new kind of “O”.
- you’ll get more orgasms in the long run
“Women who masturbate are more likely to have orgasms during partnered sex, and we believe that this finding is related to an increase in comfort and knowledge with regard to her body.”
- you’ll also feel more comfortable speaking up about your needs during partnered sex
“The more you know your body, what you like and what you don’t, the more you can communicate with current and future partners about what you want, need and crave.”
The most important thing you can do if you want to be sure that you climax when masturbating is getting in the mood. Getting in the mood is something that varies greatly from person to person.
Make the moment of self pleasure special to you
- relax – you’ll be more responsive to touch when you’re relaxed
- draw a bubble bath – as you soak in the warm water, your muscle tension will melt
- incorporate background sound
- use oils that you love to massage onto your skin
- light some candles
- read an erotic book or watch some porn
- let your mind wander into a sexual fantasy you have not yet fulfilled or one that really turned you on
Pleasure yourself in the morning
If you usually masturbate before bed, why not try it in the morning, before work? Starting your day with an orgasm is practically a guarantee for a day of pleasant thoughts.
Having an orgasm all on your own may be what you need before you start your day. Masturbating activates parts of your brain associated with pleasure. What better way to take your mind of issues that are aging you.
Gently redirect any thoughts that take you away from this moment. Make this moment yours and allow the energy that builds up and explodes within you to radiate throughout your day. Trust me when I say that it makes your day go so much better!
Pleasure yourself in the mirror
Masturbating in front of a mirror will give you more control over your own orgasm. You don’t need porn, or another person to reach climax, all you need is your own sexy self. With that in mind, every sexual encounter that you have after experiencing the mirror will be satisfactory.
In front of the mirror, you will appreciate the beauty of your body. You can separate from yourself, admiring the person who stands before you yearning to be discovered, uncovered and explored. Allow the inhibitions to fall by the wayside as you lovingly engage yourself in a sensual union with your soul. It’s all about you.
Try to connect with yourself on this level when climax is becoming inevitable. Make sounds, express your longing and know that there are no boundaries to how high you can go.
There are so many ways to love yourself, so don’t limit your options or your escapades to just one way all the time. The more you learn about yourself, the more you can share. If you’re in a relationship, masturbate with your partner. It’s not only hot to watch each other show some self-love, but it will add a lot to your partner sex. So get down with your sexy self and celebrate the love.