Anal sex is a sexual act only shown on adult websites and never in romantic movies. Whether you love it, hate it, have tried it or have thought about it, anal sex it’s becoming more and more common in bedrooms around the world.
Men correlate it with pleasure and macho sexual achievement, but for some women the situation is slightly different.
Unfortunately, many women associate anal sex with pain and they do it just to pleasure their partners. More than that, they believe that having anal sex will turn them into submissive degraded females.
You should NEVER want to feel that way.
But if you’re open to it, with a little practice and a lot of patience, you’ll be able to enjoy a satisfying anal-sex life. Actually, backdoor action might even rock your world!
If you are curious to know what backdoor sex is really like, you’ll want to keep reading.
Anal sex doesn’t have to hurt. It’s often just done incorrectly. Many women find it incredibly pleasurable, and some even report having orgasms with them.
How Do I Get Started?
The most important thing is feeling comfortable. When planning to have anal sex, especially for the first time, it is important to create a relaxing, non-intimidating atmosphere. The more relaxed you are, the easier it will be. Then, it’s all about starting slowly.
Foreplay is very important to. You can begin with inserting a finger first and using lube to get comfortable with the pressure in your rectum. The more lube you use, the more comfortable and enjoyable anal sex can be. Don’t forget to make sure you are using a water-based lubricant.
If you want to amp the sensation, a good way is playing with a sex accessory. You have a vagina and a clit, so, use them! Do not be afraid to try double penetration. Sex toys are a great way to introduce you to the feelings, sensations and pleasure of anal sex. More then that, this is a good way to relax your muscles and make it easier.
But no matter what, always be safe!
Many people think that because there is no pregnancy risk that you also don’t need to use a condom. Wrong! Most STDs are transferable through the anus (chlamydia, gonorrhea, infectious hepatitis and HIV).
I know that you think that anal sex it’s dirty (literally), but this is a big misconception. The anus and the lower part of the rectum actually have very little fecal material in them, which means it tends to not be nearly as dirty as you think. This doesn’t mean you should transfer the elements into the vagina. You never want to put an object in your bum and then back into your vagina.
It’s important to keep the lines of communication open throughout this process. Talk to your partner about your fears or desires for anal sex. Continue to communicate when first trying anal sex and make sure he is constantly checking in on how you’re feeling and also make sure you’re honest about how you’re feeling. It is important that you feel comfortable so don’t be afraid to communicate!
Stay in control
Especially the first time you are trying anal penetration, it is good to be in control of your man’s penis so that you can guide it at a pace and pressure that you are comfortable with.
At last at first, there’s no way to put this nicely. You can stop him just after the head is in. Exhale, relax and give yourself a few minutes to get used to the discomfort. Once you’re past that and up to the shaft, it’ll feel a little better.
Most people wouldn’t think that traditional missionary sex would be high on the list for anal sex, but actually this is the best position for beginners. When your back is curved, the rectum becomes straightened. The anus is the most relaxed and accessible when a woman lies on her back with knees by the shoulders. This position also allows easy stimulation to the clitoris.
Another benefits is that, during sex, you can make eye contact and kiss more. Seeing every single one of his emotional reactions will give you confidence.
As you can see, your first anal sex experience can be wanderful if you follow a few rules.
And now, let’s see some of the things women think during anal sex!
- What? Did you say “anal”? No man…
- Actually, I kind of liked it when you tried a finger in there once…so, why not? Let’s do this!
- Baby, more lube than that. Use all the lube!
- Ok, I think I’m ready. Be careful!
- No, no! Is a monster inside me! Out cock.
- Ok, I recognize that wasn’t that bad…let’s try it again.
- Takes a little getting used to, but it feels good.
- Ah, aaah, aaaaaah!
- Was actually a pretty good time.
- It’s your turn now!
So, if you really enjoy being a bag girl, this is what you need! Anal sex has a kinky wild side. You will be a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets!